Do You Make Key Decisions In Your Life (e.g. Ironman no Ironman?) With Your Head Or Your Heart?

“Your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul. If either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas. For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction. Therefore let your soul exalt your reason to the height of passion; that it may sing; And let it direct your passion with reason, that your passion may live through its own daily resurrection, and like the phoenix rise above its own ashes.”

From: The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran.

Hi folks, welcome!

amboiseI love solving problems logically, but logic isn’t always the answer. A balance between reason and feelings is probably the way to go, and generally, at the end of the day, I suspect (though my logic circuits protest),  feelings win out.

Many years ago I had a choice of jobs, both great, one in the beautiful little town of Amboise, in the center of France, the other in the Research Triangle Park, North Carolina, USA, where we were enticed by the beauty of the mountains and the Outer Banks. We solved the problem by combining reason (an analysis involving the whole family) with emotion (who loved what the most). When I say we included all of us in the decision-making process, I mean the the kids (8, 10 12) too! This experience taught me a lesson that has stayed with me for life – we would have asked the cat if she could (?) answer, but she refused to say a word.

outer-banks-road-trip-1_22147_600x450How to decide wisely between two good (or not so good) choices, when so many variables are involved? This is the stuff of life!

Many years ago I made a really bad decision based purely on the emotion of the moment, and lived to regret it; but I learned from it later. Many more years later I had to make another momentous life-changing choice. I remembered the earlier faux pas, so I applied logic, and only logic. This lead to an equally disastrous situation, which was fortunately soon corrected as feelings kicked in with a vengeance, and finally took over.

Now I try to balance these important life guides, reason and passion, but overall I think emotions can be more reliable IF they are preceded by a careful analysis of the situation.

How do you decide? Your decisions will define your life, my friends, like it or not! Which makes me wonder, “Do we have free will?”

I love to wonder, don’t you?

-k @FitOldDog



  1. So what was the dance ?

  2. I have written about this:

    Pre-destiny and choice

    Things are just as they are
    Each ought do what they can
    Some say fate’s in the hand’s of God
    And not the hands of man

    Things are just as they are
    Some will do what they do
    They may think they’re the hands of God
    And right when they wrong you

    When deadly deeds are done
    All ought do what they can
    For fate’s not all the hand of God
    Pre-destined in a plan

    Free will is there as well
    In much of what we do
    That’s our fate from the hands of God
    To choose is up to you

    To have choice is our fate
    Each must do what they can
    Free choice is from the hands of God
    Pre-destined in a plan

    Pre-destined then to choose
    We should not make a fuss
    Some may think they’re the hand of God
    And right when they wrong us

    To have choice is not bad
    Nor good beyond our ken
    Badness is not the hand of God
    But wrong choices of men

    Now what will be will be
    So when we right a wrong
    We may think we’re the hand of God
    And justice makes us strong

    But who are we to judge
    Each must do what they can
    Justice is in the hands of God
    And we don’t know his plan

    For as we right a wrong
    New wrongs we may well do
    Vengeance is in the hands of God
    It’s just not up to you

    Things are just as they are
    Each should do what they can
    Some say fates in the hands of God
    And not the hands of man

    So predestined to choose
    With choice our destiny
    We don’t know if we win or lose
    So what will be will be

    © T. Morgan 2003: Form “The Saga of Child Aethelwulf”

  3. Fourth to last line should be:

    “Predestined then to choose”

    Most of the rest is about how I composed it.

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